Today marks the one year anniversary of my dad’s passing. It’s always surprising to me how quickly time goes by. At this point you would think that I may have acclimated, yet there are usually several times during a week where I find myself shaking my head because, wow “that was 10 years ago? she’s how old now?! he got married, is he old enough to marry? holy crap, I can say 20 years ago I was 23!” My parents warned me that as I got older, time went by faster. I think it’s one of those curses that parents put on kids. Like the ‘I hope your children grow up to be just like you!” curse. I distinctly remember sitting in high school class watching the clock not move. I also clearly remember how next week never came, ok maybe never, but it took like a month! Or at least felt like it.
Now, my dad died last month. That’s how it feels. Just this week I realized that I only had one of his t-shirts. Then the harsh understanding hit that I will always and forever only have one of his t-shirts – for he’s not around for me to steal them from anymore. It’s the bitter reminder that time is precious. We talk about it. We sing about it. We write about it. There are a million quotes, sayings and tidbits that fly off our tongues about the fleetingness of time. And even when we make every effort to honor it, to cherish the moments ‘that take our breath away’ or just cherish the breath that we take, we can find ourselves standing and holding just one t-shirt.
Time is fleeting. Get on with the doing of your life. Allow the forgiveness, the love, the happy, even the sad and be in the moments. Hug a little tighter, speak a little freer, share a little more, laugh a little louder, allow yourselves to love and be loved.
Today, I honor the memory of my father by honoring those that have died for our country. My father, Ret. Sgt 1st Class Andre Plancon always thanked every person he saw in uniform. We continue that tradition and will share our thanks with roses for those laid to rest at the veterans cemetery here in the valley.
May you be Learning, LIVING & Letting Go
Namaste ~ Madison